No-one really tells you that raising Teens is a physical, mental puzzle where all your resources come into play and the ones you don’t have you have to find/grow pretty bloody quick!
Being the parent of teenagers is a puzzle wrapped inside a conundrum.
You have to show you are in control, whilst knowing that you have none.
You have to make strict boundaries, and cross your fingers behind your back that they don’t break them, even if they give them a good hard push.
You have to pick your battles, turn a blind eye, and trust your gut all at the same time.
You have to stand right beside them no matter what, but you can’t be their friend.
You have to forgive..
yourself as well as your child.
You have to make sure they know you love them, even when you are shrieking at them.
Sometimes, you have to trust them even when you have very little reason to because sooner or later they will walk out of your eyesight.
You have to let them know you aren’t afraid of embarrassing them by calling the police, of calling the parents at the party, or turning up and that you mean it – even though they say they will hate you or not forgive you for doing so.
You have to not take anything they say or do personally LOL!
And you have to hold your head up high and smile at the people who judge you for your teenagers’ lifestyle/personality/judgement calls even though you may have other kids at home who are angels.
You have to find humor…and common ground…wherever and whenever you can.
And you have to keep doing it over and over again, until they get it and they grow up.
Many people think they are better at doing it than others – but often it’s the luck of the draw When those kids of ours are out of our presence they are their own entities and despite what we may think, our rules and regulations aren’t worth the paper they’re written on when these guys are out under their own recognizance. How many of us recall all that we did that our parents never knew about…don’t think your kids are doing anything less.
“This too will pass” and “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” – they were totally made up by parents of teenagers!