Sometimes, it can be a very subtle shift between feeling a bit flat and feeling like you’re falling off the earth, but generally it’s not – you can feel yourself on the slope and identify the downshift because you know it’s PMT time, you’re tired mentally or physically or both, or you’re in the middle of or recovering from an event of some sort, big or small. Something like that. Often when we are aware that we feel a bit shit, we automatically do things to help us feel better: chockies at PMT time, comfort food, early nights with soft pants and a movie – this is not to be sneezed at. This is being kind to ourselves and taking care of ourselves. And there should be no guilt or shame in doing these things for ourselves, right?
So, I’m writing this post to remind myself because when I say it out loud it sounds perfectly reasonable, but in my mucked up brain sometimes, with all my skewed thoughts I struggle to remember to be kind or even reasonable with myself because ‘Life’. Right now, I am being stubborn and resistant to every effort I make to be OK. Crazy, right? Yes. But I’m going to write these things down…and then I’m going to do them, because I said I would and I am nothing if not stubborn and annoying.
Here are some of the things I try to do when things are a bit shit:
Go and sit in the hammock and rock
Notice the season changes going on outside: clouds/birds/leaves/smells
Read a good book – and only a good book will do
Get in the water (feet in the waves, a bath, a swim, a shower)
Have nice smells around: scenty candles, essential oils, bubble bath, posh soap
Potter in the garden
Go and watch the ducks
Get one of the kids to make dinner (and cheese on toast is fine)
Sit in the sun with a nice cup of tea
Call or text a friend (specifically the kind of friend you can talk farts with)
Get busy making something: nice food, sewing, crochet, a vegie patch
Write a postcard and go for a walk to post it
Also, breathing. Breathing is good – and I promise I’m not being facetious (well, no more than usual) but I’ve recently learned the trick to mindfulness and bringing yourself back into the moment: it’s to breathe, and to pay attention to your breathing – just for the moment, whenever the world feels like it’s sliding. If we had to remember to breathe in order to do it – we wouldn’t last very long, so bringing your awareness to the thing your body does completely without conscious thought is a great way to find your feet.
How good is that?
What do you do to be kind to yourself?