Things I Do When Life’s a Bit Shit


Sometimes, it can be a very subtle shift between feeling a bit flat and feeling like you’re falling off the earth, but generally it’s not – you can feel yourself on the slope and identify the downshift because you know it’s PMT time, you’re tired mentally or physically or both, or you’re in the middle of or recovering from an event of some sort, big or small.  Something like that.  Often when we are aware that we feel a bit shit, we automatically do things to help us feel better: chockies at PMT time, comfort food, early nights with soft pants and a movie – this is not to be sneezed at.  This is being kind to ourselves and taking care of ourselves.  And there should be no guilt or shame in doing these things for ourselves, right?

So, I’m writing this post to remind myself because when I say it out loud it sounds perfectly reasonable, but in my mucked up brain sometimes, with all my skewed thoughts I struggle to remember to be kind or even reasonable with myself because ‘Life’.  Right now, I am being stubborn and resistant to every effort I make to be OK.  Crazy, right? Yes.  But I’m going to write these things down…and then I’m going to do them, because I said I would and I am nothing if not stubborn and annoying.

Here are some of the things I try to do when things are a bit shit:

Go and sit in the hammock and rock

Notice the season changes going on outside: clouds/birds/leaves/smells

Read a good book – and only a good book will do

Get in the water (feet in the waves, a bath, a swim, a shower)

Have nice smells around: scenty candles, essential oils, bubble bath, posh soap

Potter in the garden

Go and watch the ducks

Get one of the kids to make dinner (and cheese on toast is fine)

Play music

Sit in the sun with a nice cup of tea

Call or text a friend (specifically the kind of friend you can talk farts with)

Get busy making something: nice food, sewing, crochet, a vegie patch

Write a postcard and go for a walk to post it

Also, breathing.  Breathing is good – and I promise I’m not being facetious (well, no more than usual) but I’ve recently learned the trick to mindfulness and bringing yourself back into the moment: it’s to breathe, and to pay attention to your breathing – just for the moment, whenever the world feels like it’s sliding. If we had to remember to breathe in order to do it – we wouldn’t last very long, so bringing your awareness to the thing your body does completely without conscious thought is a great way to find your feet.

How good is that?

What do you do to be kind to yourself?


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About Alyson

I am a 45+ chick. I live in the country with 3 almost (apparently) adult children teenagers, 1 husband and many animals. Here's the thing: The black dog also hangs with me occasionally and, thank the baby cheeses, life is not perfect. That's OK, because I work hard to be a glass half-full person and I can't lie! I write to help my head, heart and humor...and I tell myself 'I've got this!'


  1. Hi Al, I lay or sit in back yard and look for the kaleidoscope of flowers that cover the sky… Sonetimes I’ll see a big bird in the clouds and I’ll pretend I’m an ant. Good share. In so many ways I relate to many of your posts. Happy day! Love Mel xoxox

  2. Oh, great list! I am feeling a bit shit lately, so needed this reminder. I have all day tomorrow to myself so will be trying some of these 🙂

  3. Hi Alyson!
    I just found your blog…it’s great! I reckon you are right about the chocolate, ‘soft pants’ (haha!) and a movie in bed for those PMT days…and focusing on breathing can also help. It’s important to be kind to yourself when you need it, and I’m glad other people out there feel the same way, good to know you’re not alone 🙂 Isabel

    • Thanks so much Isabel! You’re so right, doesn’t it make a big difference when you find out you’re not the only one going quietly crazy? Xx

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